Isn't it a great time to be a woman? Nowadays we have super cool inventions like curling iron, straightening iron, the world's best highlighters, glitter everywhere and devices that can help us control our pesky menstrual cramps. All those silly things aside, we have something that is much more important. We have the freedom to choose for ourselves. We can be the creators of our own lives and decide if we want to pursue a career in every field we want or be a stay at home mom with four screaming children. We have the power too.
It doesn't really matter what we choose to do. The important part is that we CAN. Yes, there are still gaps that need to be filled. As strong, confident and powerful as only a woman can be I have no doubt we will overcome gender gaps soon. Amidst all this greatness and freedom there is something that I believe makes all of us wonder sometimes. After we have fought so hard to get to where we are there is a question that still remains. Is our other half along for the ride?
The real question is: Are men still afraid of woman in power? Are they comfortable to give away the power that they didn’t have to share just 5 decades ago? Are they comfortable to see a woman as their boss? Since the power has rested solemnly in their hands for so long, have they managed to change and adapt so quickly? As human race we are extremely adaptable to new conditions, after all that is how we’ve managed to survive for the ages. Is that the case here? Or do we still need more time to get used to the new order? (Should we say the right order?)
So let's get back into the world of today and look at the facts. Since the number of working woman has increased so did the number of divorce rates. Coincidence...? I don't think so. While every educated men out there will tell you that they have no problem with their wives working just as hard or even harder than them, do they really feel that way? Years and years of patriarchy are not going away that easily. As much as I or any women out there hates it, we are still sometimes in a position where we feel like we have to apologize for our success. And that is seriously messed up.
Why do we have to make excuses if someone doesn’t accept and support our successes and achievements? Let me tell you something, YOU DON’T. You never have to ever again. You should always be proud of your success, simply because the person that made that possible is you. All in all, women and men (I am placing women first since the case is usually always the other way around) are of the same species. We have both struggled through the centuries to create the world that we live in today. All of the progress that we have made wouldn't be possible without the other. We are different, but equal. We belong to two different forms of bodies, but carry a single soul. We are a part of a whole just like the Ying Yang concept, one can’t prosper without the other. We must not only acknowledge our respective equal roles, but also complement each other in life. Yes, women are different than men, and vice versa, it’s in our biology, but that doesn’t mean that we are not capable of working our ass off to get what we want in life. We just do it in different ways as women, and men. If history has taught us anything, it’s that once a woman sets her mind on something, there is absolutely no one and nothing that can stand in her way. The key is to act upon those feelings. (I vouch this for the woman part of the situation confidently.)
We now more than ever have to be teachers, leaders and guide to our future generations into a world where they would never feel oppressed or never feel like they can’t do what they feel is right. Now everyone knows that women are just as strong, just as brave and just as powerful to do any job and achieve any dream they have. We have to learn by our mistakes, adapt and evolve. That’s how we become better, that’s how we grow as human kind. And therein lies the beauty.
But, at the end of the day, my intention and my advice in this piece is to never, ever let anyone (that doesn't necessarily mean a man) make you feel small, powerless or insignificant. We all have a special something within us and we have to let it out. Women are capable of so much. They have always been. Now that we finally have the rights, the power and the voice to speak up, we should never again be silenced. We owe it to our foremothers. For their struggle and their fight, we too should keep the same flame and never let it burn out.
By Katerina Dimitrioska - Editor at She Is Rebel