There is a phenomenon amongst us commoners and it seems like it's growing by the minute. The struggle to find once personality and true meaning in life seems to be getting out of hands for every struggling 20 something. It culminates by reaching the peak of the 20's namely that dreaded 25, where one tortures himself with the what now and what before. Many studies state that the quarter life crisis seems to be spreading faster amongst struggling young folks. Now I am not going to lie and say I've got all figured out because I most surely don't. The thing is no one really does. And I am also one of the victims of the Quarter life crisis virus. I've just decided I can't let it rule over my life. As it so easily can.
But since this is a magazine I am going to be talking from that end. The reason I even started to write about this is because I see this problem every single day. It's everywhere. I see a young person in their 20's struggling to find their style and ending up looking silly or with a horrible fit. And style is still sort of the taboo subjects as it is mostly personal as I think it should be, but not knowing who you are and want to be affects you on the outside as much as it does on the inside. And yes the inside is the thing that really matters so you should probably work on that first, but maybe turning things around and starting from the outside can help the inside at least a little bit. Maybe it can give you a solid foundation on which to start building yourself and discovering who you are and want to be.
I am not a psychologist and can't give you an advice on your psyche I can just say that I've done a lot of work with my own just to sort of get to the bottom of my problems and find a solution. Getting to know yourself is always a good idea. But just in case you don't want to dab into the hard part just yet or you simply can't, start with the superficial stuff first. If they help you maybe they are not that superficial at all.
First and fairly easy step. Look at yourself. Find the features you like about yourself. Find a way to enhance them. Makeup can really help and be sort of therapeutic. I used to dread putting makeup on and it was sort of tiring for me, but as I grew older and started to explore the possibilities and options out there I kind of got really interested. I focused on one feature at the time, like my brows, or my eyes, or my lips, or I would just try to make my skin glow (and I am sort of obsessed with clear, glowing skin). I've run through pictures of backstage beauty on runway shows and although most of them are not so socially acceptable to wear in public without being labeled as a freak you can try a more tame version and really rock it.
Second and also kind of an easy one is the hair. Yes now we have a lot of options for cuts, color, length, accessories... And as much as this helps it can also be overwhelming. But I don't look at it as just picking one and sticking to it. The thing is you can definitely find a lot of styles that look great on you. And I am one of those people that like to try almost anything they can get away with (within a legal standpoint). I love experimenting with my hair. I've gone from long and natural to short pixie style to blond bob, to pixie in honey color, to long again, to a black bob with bangs, to now growing it as much as I can handle it. I have a friend that says I am one of those people that looks good in every hairstyle. I think that is mostly because of the shape of my head, but partly because I always style it up to match what I wear and most importantly with the way I feel. The internet is obscenely filled with different hairstyles but my advice is try everything you like, because the hair has this magical ability to grow back. And by trying you might just find what you seek. (I sound like a prophet).
Last but most definitely not least is the clothes. The most dreaded part for most and the most fun for others. I am one of the others. As is my policy with my hair and my face, it's the same with my clothes. I try not to take them seriously but I seriously try to make them fun and always new and improved. I am one of those that jump with excitement when I see an interesting ways of combining two or more items of clothing. And I like the more even more. (If that makes sense). That's why I prefer colder weather. You can wear and combine more items. But the summer does have a sort of ‘je ne sais qua’(I don’t know what). There is more than one way to make a simple floral dress work and look fresher than the flowers on it. (And I do not mean by watering it). The fashion trends come and go but making your own version of them by having a bit more courage is what makes things a lot more exciting.
I would like to thank for the patience if you made it this far through this post for its longitude, but I do feel this is an important matter to consider. I hope this helps at least one person on to a better way of finding one self and discovering all the hidden beauties and possibilities inside. I would love to hear from your personal experiences.
By Katerina Dimitrioska - Editor at She Is Rebel