Let me just start off by saying this is not an article exclusively for someone that wants a career in fashion (don’t get confused by the Prada wearing Devil in the photo). This is an article dedicated to every woman out there that wants something more in life. It can be a new job, a raise, a promotion, a guy or just a little necessary change. Whenever you want that change but don’t quite know how to do it. It just so happens that a lot of people are going through the same thing at the same time you are. In this modern age that we live in no one is immune to the need to find something new, something exciting, something that will make our lives better. So we scroll in the search of a way to achieve our dreams. We Google everything in the hope that maybe the next article or writer can offer us a better or easier advice.
Well, let me try to do just that. I will offer a small piece of advice that has been proven to work for me every time. It is awfully easy to do. You don’t have to be in the fashion business to get the hang of it. All you need is to simply leave all of the insecurities and doubts aside and trust your inner style diva.
The one thing that we always stress about before a big meeting, a date or a party is our appearance. It can drive you crazy and makes you seriously anxious. Even more so than your boss. Your overall appearance can have a huge impact on the way you present yourself to the world. Let’s say you desperately need to ask for a raise. You’ve been putting it off for so long that you finally think, “Heck I deserve this. It’s time to make it happen!” You are confident yet you only need that little nudge to help you out. Well, turns out that dressing for the job you want actually works. Let us even rephrase it to ‘‘Dress for the life you want’’. Dressing is the friend we all rely on in times like this, which most of time we undervalue despite the science vouching for it.
There are a ton of research, (some going on right now) that prove the theory of the great power that clothes poses. A phenomenon called “Enclothed cognition” states that clothes can give you a genuine boost in confidence. This isn’t big news for all of us, since we have done that experiment many times over. Just by putting a great outfit together we become instantly chipper and optimistical. Not to mention sassy. After all, clothes cover as much as 90% of your body depending on the weather and how daring you want to be (wink wink). So, that makes them a key element of our overall appearance and not to mention our attitude. You could say that all women are scientists. Testing the limits and experimenting with the greatest subject of all - fashion.
But it’s never that easy. The first things we do in the morning is getting stressed over getting dressed. Every single morning. Now imagine wearing that lovely floral pleated dress that makes you feel like dancing all the time. The one thing you’re missing is Ryan Gosling and you’re in La La Land. You feel comfortable, you feel sexy, you become instantly more attractive and not just physically. You start to radiate positive energy and optimism, and it can become highly addictive. Other people will start to catch up on those feelings. With that simple step you are getting the strength and power to implement a much needed change in your life. Such a simple and bizarre thing, but proven and accepted.
Let me give you a for instance. After graduating from college I had a really tough time adjusting to the new order. I always imagined I would be living alone, I would have a job that I will love and start living my life as a grown up. Faced with the reality of things, having to move back in with my parents and take (what for me felt like) a really big step back. In those moments I couldn’t help but feel really down. For the first time in my life I faced with the problem a lot of people are facing nowadays - depression. Everyone that has experienced it knows that it’s really hard to get out of. Mostly because it creeps up on you and when it finally catches you, you’re not even aware what’s going on. So I kind of spent a couple of months locked in my room watching every single 90’s sitcom. Until one day one of my girlfriends (going through the same thing) suggested that we should go out. Just us gals. At first I was really anxious. Like how will I be able to handle the pressure of leaving my nest and facing the real world? But, I knew that I had to do something to keep me away from just lying around and feeling bad. That is one of the hardest things to do.
I thought fashion would be the shield that will keep me safe and block all of the bad feelings. At the end, faking that I feel and look great would not hurt more than the depression. For the first time in a while I actually enjoyed looking at myself in the mirror. While it may sound stupid to many out there, such a simple action, getting out of home, was a big step for me that was finally happening. I am not going to lie and say that it was the end of my depressive state. But it was a great start.
After a while I started to feel much better, I started to have dreams and aspirations once again. As an extremely ambitious and impatient person I know now that, when my plans for the future feel through, it was inevitable to go through a depressive state. I also know that I have a really good starting point every time it happens.
Rachel Zoe says “Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak”. If you want to say that you are strong, confident and capable to take on the world, then clothes can be the key element that helps you achieve your goals. Even Cinderella had to wear a pretty dress and a great pair of shoes just so she could go to the ball and land her prince. If she went there covered in dust with torn up clothes no prince would have ever noticed her. Clothes are the first thing you see when you meet someone new. They are a huge part of one’s personality. You can tell a lot about a person just by examining the way they dress.
I am going to quote another important person here (I am full of quotes today I know), the great american costume designer Edith Head said “You can have anything you want in life, if you dress for it.” Coming from a costume designer the woman knew what she was talking about. Seeing all of the actresses on stage getting into character with the help of her creations, it must have been like entering another world. In that case, fair to say that life is just like the stage; if you put on the right outfit, you can play any role.
By Katerina Dimitrioska - Editor at She Is Rebel